Workshop For Couples

On-Going Couples Workshop
Intimacy, Romantic Love, and Sexuality
"The Dance of the Couple"
 
Four books by Joan Lachkar Ph.D.
 
A Couples Workshop (individuals welcome)
"Romantic Love" is the single greatest energy system in the Western psyche. In our culture,…it is the arena in which men and women seek meaning, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy.”  Robert A. Johnson, We (p. xi)
The “Dance of the Couple”
Saturday, July 15, 2017, 8:30 AM-12:30 PM
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. and Richard Seigle, M.D.
$100 Dollars per Couple
This workshop explores healthy romantic love and intimacy and how living with people with personality disorders (narcissist, borderline) can destroy its capacity. It offers specific approaches and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explores how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Dr. Lachkar refers to as “The Dance” (how one partner projects a negative feeling onto the other and how the other then identifies or over-identifies with it). This workshop is based on numerous articles and books on treatment of the narcissistic personality disorder particularly as it affects interpersonal love relations. Even though this workshop focuses mainly on narcissism, the narcissistic does not live alone but overlaps with many other personality disorders. Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. But few have addressed how to actually communicate with one and how their defenses destroy the capacity to maintain an intimate loving relationship.
This workshop is suitable for couples or half couples willing to explore aspects of intimacy, communication, and mindfulness. We then explore common complaints that create conflict in couples and their resolution.
 
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, How to Talk to a NarcissistHow to Talk to a Borderline, and the Disappearing Male, and New Approach to Marital Therapy. Courts Beware of the Borderline. This workshop is based on Dr. Lachkar's twenty-five years of clinical experience including groundbreaking articles and books on couple’s therapy andmany theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists.
Richard Seigle, M.D., has worked with individuals and couples for over 40 years.  His background includes physical, spiritual and psychological modalities.  
 
For Further Information Please contact:
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D.
818 290 3390 (office)
310 413 9593 (cell)
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INTIMACY AND ROMANTIC LOVE 
The Dance of the Couple
Workshop Schedule.  
Saturday, July 15, 2017
8:00 - 8:25                    Registration and Continental Breakfast
8:30 - 9:00                    Welcome and Introductory Comments
                                    Ground Rules / Group Introductions
9:00 - 10:15                  Defining Couple Therapy          
                                    Defining the Narcissist His/Her Majesty the Narcissist
Different Types of Narcissist (Pathological, Malignant, Antisocial, Depressive, OCD, Passive-Aggressive (The “Poor Me” Victim, The Artist, the Cross-Cultural)      
10:15 - 10:30                Coffee Break
10:30 - 12:00                The Dance, the Bond and the Drama of the Couple
Why People Stay Bonded to Painful Relationships
                                    Psychodynamics of the Couple (shame vs. guilt, envy vs. jealousy etc.)
                                    Communication Techniques –
Language of Empathology
How to Listen (or not listen)
Case/Role Play/Group Exercise           
12:00-12-30                  Tavistock Method/Closing Thoughts

 

Workshop for Couples: Intimacy and Romantic Love  - view March 11, 2017 workshop details

 

Workshops For Mental Health Professionals

Lachkar Professional Seminars offers half-day workshops for mental health professionals, with Continuing Education Credit (CECs).


The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:
New Approach to Marital Therapy

Workshop Presented at the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists' 51st Annual Conference, at the San Francisco Airport Marriott Waterfront, Burlingame, California - www.CAMFT.org/AC15

This intermediate level presentation draws from many theoretical perspectives, including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, object relations, attachment theory, contemporary theorists and others. It addresses what happens when a narcissist and a borderline get together in a marital bond, how each one unconsciously projects a negative feeling into the other, and how the other identifies with what is being projected. It also includes many treatment points and procedures as it offers specific procedures  and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple, e.g., why couples stay in painful destructive, on-going behaviors also known as traumatic bonding or "the dance." Aside from this work, it has applicability to all kinds of couples, including cross-cultural couples.

COURSE OBJECTIVES

At the end of this session, participants will be able to:

  • Explain the couples' mutual projections and how each one tends to identify or over-identify with the negative projections of the other;
  • Describe how old archaic injuries ("V-Spot") impairs the couples' current perspective of reality (judgment, perception, reality testing);
  • Utilize the different perspectives to draw from different procedures and techniques to know when and how to interpret, confront or intervene during couples counseling.

Joan Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed MFT in private practice in Sherman Oaks, CA, as well as an affiliate member of the New Center for Psychoanalysis. She has authored several books including The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple: Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, How to Talk to a Narcissist, How to Talk to a Borderline, The Disappearing Male, New Approach to Marital Therapy, and her new book, Common Complaints that Bring Couples into Therapy. She also writes as a psycho-historian and has been widely published in journals on the subject of marital and political conflict in the Journal of  Psychohistory, Frontpage, Family Security Matters, and published her paper, "The Psychopathology of Terrorism," at the Rand Corporation.

To sign up for this workshop, please call (818) 290-3390 or email Joan Lachkar by typing the following:

jlachkarAT signaol.com

 


Ongoing:

Defining a Narcissistic / Borderline Relationship

This is an ongoing supervision group designed to help mental health professionals, mediators, lawyers and others who deal with difficult patients and clients by offering newer in-depth concepts, approaches and techniques of contemporary psychoanalytic thinking. The purpose is to provide an overview integrating classical psychoanalysis, object relations and self psychology. The course works with two ... Read More

 

Ongoing Supervision Group

This is an on-going supervision group designed to help mental health professionals, mediators, lawyers and other professionals deal with difficult patients/clients by offering newer in-depth concepts, approaches and techniques of contemporary psychoanalytic thinking. Read More

 

On-Going Group Psychotherapy

Designed for analytically minded individuals, the therapy models the classical psychoanalytic / psychodynamic model using goals and objectives that provide a unique opportunity for gaining interpersonal awareness and resolution of internal conflicts. A safe, nurturing and containing environment with an overview integrating classical psychoanalysis, object relations and self-psychology. Read More


Past Lachkar Professional Seminars Workshops
for Mental Health Professionals Have Included:

 

Many Faces, New Approaches 2004 - Based on the book, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High Functioning Women, by Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.

"The Marriage of Two Minds: How to Talk to a Narcissist & How to Talk to a Borderline" half-day workshop with four Continuing Education Units (4 CEUs) for Mental Health Professionals.

"The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple: New Approaches to Marital Therapy" half-day workshop with four Continuing Education Units (4 CEUs) for Mental Health Professionals. 

 

 

BOOKS OVERVIEW

Dr. Joan Lachkar is the author of numerous published books and articles including The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple, How to talk to a Narcissist, How to Talk to a Borderline, Common Complaints that Bring Couples into Therapy, and Courts Beware of the Borderline. For more, visit our Books section for more details and to order.