The Narcissistic /Borderline Couple (First Edn): A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment

NBfirstednThe Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, Brunner / Mazel, New York, First Edition, 1992, 244 pages.

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Book Info
Theoretical examination of marital therapy of the narcissistic / borderline couple. Examines the couple's behavioral patterns and outlines a six-point systematic treatment procedure.

Book Description
This volume explores how partners form a parasitic bond and play out a drama of earlier conflictual experiences, characterized by their painful, circular patterns of behaviour. The complexities of these relationships and the potential obstacles to effective intervention are also examined.


Sam Vaknin, author of books about narcissistic abuse: Lachkar's grossly overlooked book is the best introduction I know of to abusive dyads comprised of two people with personality disorders. Replete with case studies and an impressive theoretical background (mainly, but not only, Object Relations Theories) - the book is a vade mecum for both professionals and sufferers. Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars ... YOU ALWAYS SCORE A FIVE! Professor Peter Berton

Samuel Eisenstein, M.D., Training Analyst and Supervisor, Southern California Psychoanalytic Institute: "Dr. Lachkar succeeds in building a unified theory of marital conflict that brings together the most recent advances in psychoanalytic concepts - (She) offers an inside view of what happens when two pathologies enter into a "dance" that fulfills each other's unconscious and conscious needs. Marital conflict is discussed with emphasis on both intrapsychic as well as the interpersonal experience. The book offers valuable theoretical and clinical recommendation to both the beginner and the experienced therapist who works with narcississtic / borderline couples."

Robert Langs, M.D.: "Joan Lachkar joins an eminent group of psychoanalysts who are broadening the scope of psychoanalysis by extending its domain beyond the confines of the individual analytic patient to the couple and family. Lachkar brings deep intelligence to her subject and integrates the complex writings of psychoanalysts of very different persuasions into a full and compelling picture of the pathology of a rather common type of disruptive match-up and the issues such couples raise for psychotherapists. She then offers many helpful ideas on how to best modify the vicious circles in which these pairs typically find themselves. With careful attention to the details of the therapeutic setting and c, Lachkar provides the reader with very practical guidelines for the treatment of this type of dysfunctional couple." - Robert Langs, M.D.

Reader Comment: I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and was involved in a relationship with someone that had NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder)but wasn't aware when I was IN the relationship. This book helped me not only understand why he and I continued the "dance" of what seemed like never ending turmoil, but also why we were attracted to one another to begin with. Many things from our childhood determines who we choose as romantic partners. If you or someone you know is BPD and involved with an NPD, this book is a MUST read! Excellent! - This text refers to the hardcover edition



Dr. Lachkar is the author of numerous published books and articles including The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple, How to talk to a Narcissist, How to Talk to a Borderline, Courts Beware of the Borderline, and Common Complaints that Bring Couples into Therapy. For more, visit our Books section for more details and to order.